For anyone who is considering marrying someone who already has children, movies like “Stepmom” can be terrifying. Also, knowing that the children may have visions of a “Cinderella” situation looming in their heads may not make you feel very welcome. There are a few guidelines, however, that can help. As someone who has gone through three step-parents myself, I have been through just about every issue possible with regard to merging families. The keys to having a smooth integration into the family vary depending on the age of the child. Younger children are more willing to accept a step-parent because they haven’t gotten to their “independent” phase yet. For pre-teens and teenagers, however, it is easy to view the step-parent as just one more authority figure in the way of their freedom.
Here are some tips to help.