Because of her passion, Jodi Seidler has been profiled on hundreds of Web sites and dozens of publications, including: Single Parents Magazine, Child Magazine, USA Today, The LA Times and The Milwaukee Journal; She’s carried the Making Lemonade message to her own radio show, as well as national radio and TV talk shows, such as: “Inside Edition”, “Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus”, “Berman and Berman: For Women Only”, UPN, Channel 13 News, “The Other Half”, “From Inspiration to Realization”, CBS Evening News, KCAL News, and The New York Times. Jodi Seidler knows how to help the newly single get beyond divorce and date as a single parent.
Ask a room full of single moms if they’ve ever felt the same way as you do right now and all the hands in the room will shoot up. I have a few ideas for you. Keep an “angry” journal. Get those emotions out of your body and on to paper. This way you can see what is really at the root of your anger — maybe fear or exhaustion. By writing it down and getting it out of your body it also makes room for some joy and love for your children to come in.
Benefits to being a single parent…
I think there are a lot of benefits to being a single parent. I mean I’ve been one for a long time but I would say that you become so strong because you are both mother and father in a lot of ways, without losing your femininity. But you gain this strength that you can pretty much do anything. And as long as you have the support so that you feel you like you are not alone – I can’t emphasize that enough – there is just this strong “I am woman, hear me roar” kind of thing that happens. And the best thing is you can find a lot of joy in being a single parent as well. It’s not just the old “woe is me”, like in the olden days when there weren’t as many single parent households.
Need Help? You’re Not Alone
In today’s world, fathers are getting their share of custody after divorce, and those numbers are growing. I understand it can be scary or daunting for dads, juggling work, parenting and perhaps even a social life. For all the single dads out there — there’s no doubt you are doing a great job! The most important thing you have to do is love your child, after that it’s just gravy.
There are places you can go for support and Web sites to visit that are for single dads. If you have a church or synagogue, community center, or local park, they all might have or can start a single parent support group. Approximately, 62 percent of all parents are single, so your universe is wider than you think. I suggest you begin by typing in “single fathers” in a search engine, and go visit one of those sites.
For anyone who is considering marrying someone who already has children, movies like “Stepmom” can be terrifying. Also, knowing that the children may have visions of a “Cinderella” situation looming in their heads may not make you feel very welcome. There are a few guidelines, however, that can help. As someone who has gone through three step-parents myself, I have been through just about every issue possible with regard to merging families. The keys to having a smooth integration into the family vary depending on the age of the child. Younger children are more willing to accept a step-parent because they haven’t gotten to their “independent” phase yet. For pre-teens and teenagers, however, it is easy to view the step-parent as just one more authority figure in the way of their freedom.
Here are some tips to help.